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The Value of Our Dreams, Part 2

Doris and Lou Roberts (1951)

CAN YOU PROVIDE AN EXAMPLE? …OF DREAM VALUE (continued from Part I)

When Dr Dris thought of the so-called real world around her, she felt her dream needed less real details and more emotional loving experiences.  Also she found, during these dream times, that she was searching deep within her soul for answers.   Dr Dris had many unusual dreams and psychic things happening around her throughout her life.   She was much too sensitive to the pain that existed all around her and often felt very weak and drained.   If there was a cold cruel world her parents believed was waiting,  she would need a strong protector.

Occasionally, Dr Dris would think she had to dismiss finding a strong ‘protector’ as a choice not worth dreaming about … no man would desire her for she was nothing special.  As a girl and a young woman, Dr Dris was too shy, too sensitive.  She thought, “Can I even begin to feel I could love anyone I didn’t really truly know.  He would have to love me so much and truly love to answer all my questions and want to teach me all that he knows.  Was there any man out there who would even want to take the time to teach me some things that most everyone else already knows?”

 

WHAT HAPPENED?  DID YOUR DREAM FIND YOU?

Yes.  Dr Dris met that man in her hometown wearing a Naval Academy cadet uniform, eloped, and had a long happy life together.  After over 30 years of marriage, they eventually separated for both Doris and Lou had an additional path to follow to complete their missions in life.  Each, in their own way, had to work out for themselves what was next after raising most of their children to adulthood.  It was one of the most difficult things Dr Dris ever had to do, but she realized they have a double path karma.   Doris often related memories filled with Lou’s intelligent and loving worldly thoughts.   He was her first Great Spiritual Teacher and she loved him always.  But he was a Vietnam Casualty and drove his family away when love became a burden he could no longer carry.   Unfortunately, he was part of and a witness to too much killing and suffering.

 

 

The Value of Our Dreams, Part I

Extracted synopsis of answers from a personal interview on ‘Phenomena Philosphy’ by D. Paine Roberts, Msc.D., Ph.D.

EXPLAIN DREAM VALUE.

Dr Dris discovered that if a person can dream it, she/he can live it.  She received and conceived the ideal conditions that would make her feel real and whole by serving a purpose this lifetime.  So as expected, she was told she was a Dreamer like it was something terrible to be, and it could be, especially if people do not recognize the dream they’re looking for is right inside them and start to begin to actively participate in it as reality.  It helps to look around for the good to guide your way and ignore the not so good.  When Dr Dris paid too much attention on what she didn’t want, that was what was attracted to her.  She discovered her dreams could work the same for the good she desired in her life at any time.

 

CAN YOU  PROVIDE AN EXAMPLE?

Just before graduating from high school one of her dreams came true.   Dr Dris was concentrating on what she didn’t want — she was lost in sadness and depression.  She also knew she was the only one who could change her life.  It came down to deciding what she passionately desired in her life from that moment on.   Passion is the key.

The following is an example of Dr Dris’s persistent determination to reach an educational goal:   “When I turned 16 my whole life changed. My mother forced me to drop out of school to help bring more money into the household.  I dreamed no matter what happened nor how long it would take, I would obtain the highest kind of education I could so I immediately enrolled in night school to graduate with my High School class.  Also, I set my mind on a life I wanted; I wanted a husband, an exciting life of travel and service to others, and children to love (circa late 1940s/early 1950s).”

Dreaming assisted Dr Dris in understanding what Love truly was.  She wanted to be a part of something bigger than herself.  Dr Dris also wanted to be protected as a woman with a strong man loving her, and together give birth to children she could love and provide a loving childhood she never had.  All this may seem very insignificant and very basic for any woman, but she wanted hers to be something unusual and different.  Dr Dris wanted her  life to be filled with romance and adventure.

(Later, her favorite movie was “Officer and a Gentleman” .   Read on… in next post)

 

A Personal Interview series with D. Paine Roberts, Msc.D., Ph.D.

Phenomena Philosophy

IN YOUR STUDIES OF THE PHILOSOPHY OF PHENOMENA, WHAT WOULD YOU SAY IMPRESSED YOU THE MOST?

DR:  I think I must say that is the realization of the power of Unconditional Love.

WHY WAS THAT THE ONE OUT OF SO MANY?

DR:  As a young child growing up in a world of family, friends and interests, it was amazing that no matter what was going on in my life, I was also always looking for a reason for everything that was happening to me.  I was told that I was loved, but what did that mean?  I didn’t get much attention for I had a baby brother that seemed to take it all. Besides that, I was very quiet and very sensitive and remembered things that did not appear to be real in the actual world around me.  “What am I doing here?” I often asked myself. I wanted to have more answers or reasons than what were given to me.

DID YOUR SURROUNDINGS CHANGE MUCH AS YOU GREW OLDER?

DR: As I matured sooner than most because of the trying times in my family’s life, I found myself wanting to know more about what I was supposed to be doing with my life.  It had to be more than the suffering and pain that was going on all around me at that time of my life.

Fortunately, I had a very creative imagination in the darkness of the night as I lay in my bed unable to sleep. Even when in a movie theatre in my early years watching some inspiring film on the big screen in front of me I found myself yearning to understand and know more than anything in the world what true love really was. Was it what I saw on the screen or read in the romantic books in the library?  What my mother said it was, felt more like sacrifice and suffering than joy and happiness.

HOW DID YOU OVERCOME THIS DILEMMA AT SUCH AN EARLY AGE?

DR:  I tried not to think that love was my life’s mission. I would continually remind myself that it couldn’t be so simple. Everyone knows what love is, but to me it had to be something much more meaningful. There had to be in there somewhere 1) a selfless way to serve Humanity, 2) or a way of life that had Spiritual Meaning, and 3) a Special Family Unit where family members truly cared for each other and always celebrated life’s ups and downs together surrounded by unconditional love. I truly desired to know what I was really doing here. I realize now that I had a very deep need to understand what common life was all about.  Nothing about my surroundings made any sense to me as a child. I felt I was different from everyone around me.  I did not feel that I belonged where I was and I didn’t fit in very well. I had an awareness that went beyond the usual and I often felt lost in my surroundings. What was I doing here.

When I questioned the way things were, because I felt I was unfairly being picked on, I was often asked in frustration by my own mother, “Who do you think you are?  The Queen of England?”

As I grew I eventually felt I had to give up that inner need to understand to finally realize just what my mission was this lifetime.  As I looked back on it all, it appears to be all about Unconditional Love. I eventually came to the realization that Love is the glue that keeps us in the “here and now” so that our souls can grow and expand with our ever expanding Universal Loving Awareness. 

(To be continued….)

-posted verbatim from e-file last modified 6/27/2004 11:15 PM by Dr Dris.