I. Charm is defined in this context as the power to arouse love and admiration. It makes you attractive and fascinating, influencing others as if by magic. It is closely linked to enchantment: To enchant means to delight completely, to enrapture with joy literally to encircle with song. A truly charming personality is magical and mysterious having an alchemical effect on his or her surroundings. Charm attracts people to you because you are genuinely interesting and engaging. Charm also attracts Angels.
II. Kindness is another element of Lightness. A kind person will also attract Angels and unkind person will repel everyone especially Angels. Think about it. Being kind is agreeable, open and without effort. When it is forced, it is too sweet, a substitute like saccharine, for it leaves a bitter aftertaste with both parties the giver and the receiver. When kindness is real it is pure and delightful!
III. Humor is the essence of a light, loving open heart. However, there is a fine line between making fun of another person and true wit. Both discover the absurd and the ridiculous in life, but wit does it in a comfortable way so that no one is offended. Being witty or having a sense of humor doesnt automatically mean you make fun of anyone, including yourself. Ridiculing others is neither charming nor funny even when you are the brunt of your own jokes. Being witty means having the ability to combine words and ideas in a clever way that appeals to the intellect in everyone.
Also having a sense of humor does not mean that you are the one who creates the humor. It means you have the ability to appreciate and enjoy amusing situations and a good laugh.