Be your own Best Friend
You deserve to live your dream. Dont be so hard on yourself. Give yourself a break. Give up being all things to all people. Allow yourself to be your own best friend. You are worthy of all the good life has to offer in your life. When you grow, you threaten others, they think they are going to have to grow and give up those things that dont work for them, also. In their own of consciousness state, if they are miserable, they may attempt to keep you with them and miserable, too. Misery loves company. Perhaps they do not want to step out into the unknown where there are no guarantees. Remember no one can live others lives for them without their own dissatisfaction and resentment entering yours. Ease back on yourself and go with the flow of your vision. Always know everyone comes from choice. Make the right choices knowing others make their own choices also. Be easy on yourself and others. They may believe in suffering.
Build a Support System
A dream requires a supportive environment around the dreamer so it can manifest into reality. Interact with others in an open, honest way. Support growth and trust in others as well as yourself. Build a united bond with others in a community sense that eliminates harmful and hurtful things around you. An unsafe environment harms and hurts all those within it. A hurting person is an unsafe person for we only are able to give others that which we give ourselves first. Give your dream a safe surrounding to grow. No one is liable for another persons happiness, for it is a highly subjective state of mind and relies heavily on a persons own spirit. Encourage others by your own actions for a safe, secure environment is one where everyone involved is supported in establishing ones own open communication with ones own Inner Spirit.
Fuel the fire in the heart of your dream and be willing to give others time to understand you and your dream. Be intimate with yourself and others who are a vital part of your dream. Keep communication open so that you may realize what works and doesnt work for you. Dont get stuck into control over things you have no control over. Be open to changes that flow with the energy around you. Allow your dream space to become all it can be while still focusing on it. Come from Trust in Self. Live your dream in your heart so that it can receive and store the energy that brings The Dream into actual creation.
A better idea and easier way might come to you in the middle of an idea. Check it out. Do not rush into another way. Test the water before jumping in. Dont pretend you know everything. Keep an open mind to new possibilities. Flexibility can be one of the most powerful lessons you can give those around you who may be assisting you in pursuing your vision. Admit to your own shortcomings and respect yourself and others will respect you back.
Challenge Your Abilities
Any dream worth living is a dream worth the gift of your time and attention. It should stretch your capabilities and allow you to focus on challenging growth, pressing against the boundaries created by you. Discover the leading edge of whatever you have set out to accomplish, so that you may know that it can be done by the actual doing of it in your mind. In doing so, you will realize that it is not impossible to reach. Deep doubts and fears may come to the surface at this time. That is to be expected for it is one of the functions of the left-brain hemisphere to question your decisions. Do not allow the doubts to stop your forward movement. For if you buy into fear and stop at this point, your dream, if it is meant to be lived, will return at a later time when it may be too late for it to be truly experienced by you. Take the time to set up achievable step-by-step goals to assure your mind that you are on the right track. As you systemically go about accomplishing them, always have other goals to replace them when they are completed. Develop a three-month plan, a six-month plan, a one-year plan, and if needed for whatever the reason, a five-year plan. No matter how long it takes believe it is possible for you to accomplish your goal, to live your dream. Create a plan of action that assures accomplishment and gain for all concerned.
Remember to enjoy each step-by-step goal accomplishment also along the way. Allow your way to give you some satisfaction. Do not completely rely only on the accomplishment of the final goal to feel fulfillment. The process of actually doing it is as rewarding as the final accomplishment if you keep in mind the actual creation of a dream into reality.
Once you have clarified the inspirational dream into an actual vision in your mind so that you can give it substance, it has now become an idea whose time has come. You can understand the ramifications and opportunities involved in your vision by making a pro and con list the good that it will bring into your life and the possible sacrifices it will take for you to live your dream. Call forth now the courage to act, for without action and continued fascination on a positive outcome (even if it is just gathering more information), a dream cannot manifest into reality.
The creation of your dream begins by describing your own present reality as accurately as possible in order to determine the new direction you are required to take to begin living your dream. There are possible dreams and impossible dreams. The possible ones are those that have a measure of truth in them and can logically lead you to manifesting them in your life in a step-by-step process. The impossible dreams or visions are those that use your creative imaginations and give you pleasure (or perhaps pain) in recalling them.
At some point in time there is the realization that they are meant to stay as illusions in your life as a way to motivate you to get moving and/or to punish yourself for being a failure for not being the person others think you should be.
It is up to each one of us to recognize the difference between actual dreams that come to us as great ideas which take desire, dedication and demands to bring into being and those imaginative fantasies which assist each of us in existing in a stressful world. The idea is to bring your own incognitive inspirational dreams into actual cognitive recognition in your daily lifestyle by directly and frequently focusing your attention on the desired outcome.
This Blog is posting the writings of late Doris E. Roberts, PhD in Metaphysics (1933 – 2009)
Ordained Minister – International Metaphysical Ministry (IMM), University of Metaphysical Science – Holistic Seminary College — Summer 1989
Doctorate in Metaphysical Science Msc. D, University of Metaphysics, (UM) May 1990
Doctorate in Philosophy Ph.D. (UM) June 2000